Real Modern Man

Hey JWS, love the show. The eye contact episodes were great. Despite my name also being Evan, I was somewhat disappointed in episode #45. She came across immature(understandable since she's only 25), uninformed and somewhat aloof since she had trouble directly answering your questions or staying on topic. A resume of sleeping with herbal, claiming to do research, and writing editorials in mens magazines is very unimpressive and goes against things you have taught us about censoring your media intake. I stay away from all the female sexperts pouring out horrible advice in Maxim, Mens Health and the plethora of other stereotypical seduction columns that preach their AFC mantra's and romanticize things like "rolling on the ground all night like 16 year old and making out while fully clothed". Give me a break. My hope that you were going take serious argument to her unintellectual common sense ramblings was shattered withing the first minute of the interaction.
For instance, when she says "the idea that once you have the orgasm the sex is over... is effective for male pleasure but lacking for women....(and how only) about thirty percent of women can achieve and orgasm through penetration part of the time", I am thinking to myself does this "sexpert" not understand male physiology? Regardless of her seeming contempt for the fact that the vast majority of men cannot orgasm repeatedly like a women, she should be delving into foreplay and sex techniques that would make her cum several times before the man biologically has to end it INSTEAD of bragging about how the only person that can keep up with her is a woman. There are many guys, including myself, who do not have any trouble stimulating a womans clitoris WHILE we enjoy the most pleasurable part for us, which is penetration.
The she proceeds to say, "there is absolutely no evidence medically or... we know nothing about women physiologically that would suggest that a woman is able to achieve and orgasm ever without stimulating her clitoris directly or indirectly". Even if this were true and she didn't just pull it out of her ass, how is this supposed to support her claim? WHAT IS HER CLAIM, other than penetration isn't everything??? I'm sorry, but that is one of the most obvious statements ever. Almost as obvious as her tangent on how rough sex is much more pleasurable when you're turned on and lubricated and how "it's all about creating a safe space that's psychologically stimulating".
The rest is just not worth re-listening and analyzing. Her naive view on gender roles and lover/provider doesn't even skim the surface of what you have come up with Joseph, it must have been painful for you to listen too. I have a lot of respect for you Joseph and think you are spot on nearly all the time, but I was disappointed that you didn't lead the interaction more. I'm not saying you should have corrected her on every little dumb thing she said, but you could have at least jokingly pointed out some of her inconsistencies and kept the conversation to more specifics. A little confrontation helps cut through the bullshit. To your credit you do this somewhat by asking what builds that instant sexual connection, we'll see if the second episode makes up for this one or if her ADD gets in the way. The purpose of the interview should not be to get her to like you, that was easy, you did that by agreeing with her; the purpose should be to challenge some mainstream female thought and in the process hopefully come up with some new interesting ideas.

Who's Herbal? Should I know who that is? I don't listen to female advice on these issues either. Anyway, we'll see what happens in part 2.

Was that guru by any chance David Shade? ;)

Guys, thanks very much for these comments. I received other emails as well and some of the reactions I got were even harsher than what you've said here! One listener feels very strongly that I should never even give a woman a forum to express her sexual views in this manner like I did; he sees it as a real threat to men everywhere!

I am going to record the follow-up today and I am going to address listener comments, including one from a PUA that you guys all know. He says that he understands why some of you find Evan's comments such a threat to your worldview. Tough love all around, so stay tuned!

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I was quick to chastise this woman largely because I didn't step back and realize the importance of hearing her view. I was looking at the interview from a defensive angle, rather than a learning experience. The fact that she wasn't one bit afraid to express her views should be commended. Her mindset is the norm for the majority of girls I encounter on a daily basis in Southern California and while I have been able to rise above and not buy into much of it, many of my AFC friends have not. This inevitably breeds some resentment, however, I cannot change this and should never anyones honest views offensively.
Next time Joseph, maybe give some insight in how best to observe and learn from interviews.